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Did you know that forgiveness is good for you?
The process of forgiveness has been shown to have both psychological and physical benefits to the person who is doing the forgiving. Shocking, isn't it? You may have heard the old axiom, "Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."
Now,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], thanks to recent research conducted by venerable psychologists, there is clinical proof that non-forgiveness is bad for you. Dr. Fred Luskin,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], in his book called Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness notes that the results of his and other scientific studies show that "People who are taught to forgive become less angry,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], more hopeful, less depressed, less anxious, less stressed, more confident,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and they learn to like themselves more." (p. 7
Would you like to have less anger,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], depression and stress in your life? Would you like to be more confident and like yourself more? Forgiveness is an answer.
Although I admire many of Dr. Luskin's techniques for teaching forgiveness,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I'd like to offer my own "Seven Steps to Forgiveness" in a nutshell in this article.
Some preliminary words: Forgiveness is a process,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], not an event.
If something or someone has deeply hurt you, you may find it difficult to forgive quickly - although it is possible, and to be able to forgive immediately is my personal goal. Believe me,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I am not there yet. You may not even be aware of people or situations that you need to forgive,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but their memories may be festering in your cellular tissue, unconsciously depleting your energy and vitality. As you become aware of these issues, practice these steps to lighten your energetic load, clear your heart and live more peacefully,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], knowing that forgiveness will happen on your own individual time table.
Also, this technique is what works for me today. I reserve the right to amend and change this approach as I learn more,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]! As mentioned before, I intend to get to a point of grace in which I can forgive people and events as they happen. But I know I am not there yet.
Step One: Identify exactly how you feel. Write extensively and expressively about the situation/person/event,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], sharing your deepest thoughts, emotions and needs. Many spiritual teachers understand the power of writing - it wrests your feelings from the more primitive emotional brain and allows the analytical brain a chance to examine the subject. Both my husband and I keep a journal because it helps rid the psyche of negative emotions. Write until you feel you can write no more.
Step Two: Talk to a trusted friend, partner or adviser about this subject. This is an important step to help you fully identify and acknowledge the emotions, but also to get another person's perspective on the situation.
Step Three: Consider and write about the situation from the other person's point of view. What might they have felt? What was going on in their life behind the scenes,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as it were? What were their needs? What did you do to contribute to the situation? In my experience,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], this is a difficult but transformational step.
Step Four: Consider and write about the situation in the third person,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as if you are a newspaper journalist writing about it. Include only the discernible facts about the event, only what a neutral third party would have observed if they had been there. This step helps to build perspective.
Step Five: Construct a forgiveness letter to the person who aggrieved you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], acknowledging the emotions that person might have felt,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], their needs and what elements of their background might explain their actions. You do not need to send this letter or talk to the person in order to benefit from this step.
Additionally in this step, consider how you can move from being a victim in this situation to the hero. Forgiving is certainly heroic. In what other ways can you write yourself as the hero/heroine?
Step Six: Decide what actions you will take, whether it is legal action or a conversation with the other person. Remember,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], forgiveness is not the same as condoning, and there are times in which legal action is needed. However,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], legal action taken in the spirit of forgiveness will be much less stressful for you than otherwise. Your energy will be clear.
Step Seven: Your brain has been trained to tell your grievance story about this situation every time you think about it or the other person. You need to re-train your brain to rest in forgiveness, you need to stop your negative,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], blaming or self-blaming thoughts in their tracks. Catch yourself immediately upon thinking of the grievance, take a deep breath and bless the other person and yourself. In this manner you will re-pave the neural pathways in your brain so your habitual thoughts won't do the blame game like a CD on repeat.