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,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]Gain a Baby, Lose a Friend
I was excited to get out of the house with my daughter and go to an early dinner with a girlfriend. I had just enough time to run home and frantically pack the diaper bag for our outing. The three of us jumped in the car, as much [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] as you can jump with a baby and a car seat, and headed off. And then I heard it, a familiar sound from my past that turned my insides to jelly. A slur, then another… my friend was anything but sober. I was immediately crushed and not exactly sure yet how bad the situation was. I didn’t know what to do, so I just drove on.
Dinner was a disaster. My friend rambled without actually hearing anything I said. And what she did hear I had to break down and explain like I was talking to a stranger. She ordered our shared meal, and sounded so bad the waitress obviously knew she was loaded. I was embarrassed and felt desperately trapped in that booth. She had trouble ordering, couldn’t figure out her to-go container and dropped her plate on the booth, all the while trying to say that her behavior was caused by not sleeping well the night before. If anyone knows sleep deprivation, it’s a new mom, and this was not [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] it.As she refused to nap at my place I finally threw up my hands and said goodbye to her at the door … but not before she fell on my elliptical machine. I watched her walk out from my window, swaying back and forth across the path, and said a little prayer that she didn’t hurt herself—or worse, someone else.
She made it home, but I was left with the sinking feeling that I had to make some serious changes. I was a mother now, not just someone's friend. Sure, my 3-month-old had no clue what was going on, but I couldn’t stomach the dysfunction in front of her. The waitress looked me at like I was a horrible mother for being out with a drug addict. And I felt like a horrible mother for not turning around earlier.Unfortunately, I’ve learned that there is no longer a certain tolerance or understanding for a friend with a problem. I have a baby and I have to make the calls for [link widoczny dla zalogowanych] my daughter that was not always made for me. In the end, although it’s not easy to say goodbye to people, it’s wonderful to feel that you are protecting your child when you can. I’ll turn around sooner next time.
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